The difference between 1 and 0

Some days you don’t feel like going out at all. You just want to lie on the couch and veg out. All day. The problem is this can become your daily routine very easily. You need to push yourself to go out because staying in is so much easier. 

But if you stay in, it’s pretty much 100% guaranteed that you will not meet any new women, you will not improve your game, and you will not advance in the process of becoming the man you want to be.

Now imagine if you make this deal with yourself: I’m just going to go to the grocery store, or the book store, or anywhere I know there will be at least a few women around. And I will make at least one approach. It can just be a quick comment. But I have to reach out at least one time, outside my personal little bubble, and connect with another breathing human. Then I can go home and veg out. 

Two things will happen. First, you have just increased you chances of meeting a woman and improving your skills infinitely. One is not just a little bit more than zero. It’s the difference between no possibility of success and a universe of possibility and success. It’s the difference between death and life. If you plant a seed, it may or may not grow. But if you don’t plant one, you know for a fact you’re getting nothing. 

Make every day a one, not a zero. Every day, no matter what, approach at least one woman. Smile. Say hi. Tell her you like her style. Tell her you read that book she’s reading and you really liked it. Even if you just ask for directions, it’s still better than nothing. It’s still a one instead of a zero. It moves you that much closer to your goals. It moves you one step forward in this process of constant improvement and learning. 

Oh, and I said two things would happen. The second thing is after your first approach you might suddenly feel like making more approaches. In which case, keep going. One is the beginning, not the end. Keep going, every day, day after day, until you reach your goals. Then set new goals, and keep going. Keep going until you run out of days. Between now and then, make every day a great one.