Which opener is right for you?

There are lots of tried and true openers out there. For some people, having a memorized opener is essential, or they fear they will freeze up. I'm all for using what works for you, but it's important at some point to start coming up with your own openers. In the end, the best openers are the ones you come up with yourself, in the moment. You look over, see a woman you want to meet, and notice something about her, the location, or what she's doing that you can riff on. To use a simple example, you see her putting on lipstick. You could say, "hey, when you're done with that can I use it?" Smile so she knows your joking.

Try to wean yourself off the canned opener and start coming up with something organic to the situation. These will always feel more natural and knowing you can do this anytime, anywhere, will help build your confidence.

Good luck!