To Neg or not to Neg

"Negging" is playful teasing of the girl you're interested in. It's commonly used in a situation where she is with her friends, and you're trying to get her "shield" down by playing like you aren't interested in her. It can also be used to create a playful dynamic with her. But for many people, negging just backfires. The girl feels insulted and loses interest.

So that brings us to the question, to Neg or not to Neg?

Consider just not negging at all. I think negging is over-rated and frequently done wrong. You need to establish the right playful dynamic and have some foundation of attractio and comfort built before you throw a neg. And at that point, why bother? In other words, there really is no good time for a neg. Again, just my opinion.

Mystery, one of the most famous of the pickup artists, uses negs all the time and has success with them (unless you measure success as long term relationships, based on The Game). If you watch Mystery in action, you can see that he creates a context in which a neg will be taken the right way, he's acting like a big brother when he does it. This is hard to pull off right. If you can do it, it establishes a closeness because only someone close to you would dare throw a neg.

But for most people I would advise not using negs. I think there are other safer and easier ways to establish a quick connection that feel more natural for more people.

If negs are working for you, go for it. But if you're pissing girls off with your negs, I'd leave it behind and work on other parts of your game.

Good luck.